This Mother’s Day, I’m thinking about things a little differently.
Don’t get me wrong, every year has and always will be a chance to thank my mum for, well, being her but this year, it means a little bit more. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that this is the first time in years that I feel like I finally have my ‘adulting’ hat on. I’m in a fortunate position that means I can truly appreciate how far I’ve come and believe me, it’s taken a long old time. It’s in this same time that I’ve come to realise that my mum was right on just about everything *shock, horror* – a lot of which has helped me to where I am today – and that’s what I’m focusing on this year.
With that in mind, here are a few things my mum always told me growing up that I’ve come to realise are cold, hard facts:
1. I’m not heating the street.
Since paying my own energy bills, I totally get this. Energy is expensive and I’d never dream of leaving doors or windows open during the Autumn/Winter. It’s cold outside and I don’t have an infinite bank balance.
2. Don’t forget a coat, if the car breaks down then you’ll be cold.
My car did break down and no, I didn’t have a coat. I got a fever and was ill. Seriously, always take a coat with you or leave an emergency one in the car.
3. Beggars can’t be choosers.
You know what, they can’t but it sure as hell teaches you how to live within your means. I’m going to tell myself that’s the underlying life lesson here.
4. Don’t stoop to their level.
I’ve been in enough arguments to know now that it never works. Rise above it all and live your best life – whatever that is. Life is too short to argue with people who aren’t worth your time.
5. There’s fruit in the kitchen.
There always is and it’s healthy. If I’m hungry now, I’ll snack on an apple or a banana – I feel lots better for it as opposed to munching on far too many biscuits.
6. You’d forget your head if it wasn’t attached.
I really would, I’m that forgetful.
7. Getting dirty is good for you, it builds up resistance.
Scientifically proven. There’s been plenty of times where I’ve gone on a little adventure, got a little mucky and felt much better off for it – the great outdoors is a remarkable place. Who’s to say it didn’t build up my resistance?! I know it certainly has in a mental sense.
8. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
This is most certainly a truth. If you’ve got the will to do anything in life, then you’re far more likely to succeed. In the past year alone, with my career moves and health issues, this has proved it.
9. You can’t always get what you want.
Ripped straight from a Rolling Stones track, whether it’s that job promotion or a can of Diet Coke in the afternoon, sometimes it’s just not going to happen. That’s not to say that you can’t learn from the situation and get it next time…
10. Don’t speak to me like that.
Everyone deserves respect – even those people who aren’t giving you any. This goes back to point 4.
11. Don’t open that umbrella in the house!
Okay, so it’s a little superstitious but really, in the grand scheme of things, why would you anyway?! You’re more than likely to break something or take your pet’s eye out, neither of these are good.
12. If everyone jumped off a cliff, would you do it?
There’s never a good answer to this, unless you say ‘no’ – which is a good thing. Create your own path in life, one that’s just as unique as you are. Be an individual in a crowd of lemmings.
13. If you’re bored, read a book.
If only I’d read one each time this was said to me during the Summer holidays, I’d be a lot wiser and more knowledgeable than I currently am. Instead, I’m making up for lost time in my twenties.
14. It’s all fun and games until someone gets hurt.
True. It pretty much is, unless you’re an unfeeling psychopath or incredibly thick-skinned. Nobody likes being hurt or hurting others normally.
15. Because I said so, that’s why.
Solid reasoning with no real come back. Still holds strong today. Also, probably the worst thing to be told as a child – it’s just not what you want to hear.
16. It’s like talking to a brick wall.
It really is. When someone doesn’t want to listen or isn’t interested, it is like talking to a cold, hard brick wall – nowhere is this more frustrating than at conferences you’re presenting at or when a friend is seeking advice but doesn’t actually want to carry out the advisements you’re suggesting e.g. ignore your ex.
17. You treat this house like a hotel.
As a kid and a young adult, you kinda do but totally without meaning to. It’s only when I moved out that I realised how much I took for granted… washing, cooking, cleaning etc. Appreciate it whilst it’s there.
18. One day you’ll thank me.
You’re damn right. Thanks mum for your infinite knowledge and wisdom.
Is there anything your mum used to tell you that’s missing from my list?