LIFESTYLE, TRAVEL

11 Alternative Things To Do In Brighton

A haven of hidden vintage gems and artisan coffee shops ideal for an afternoon of cake-filled blogging, there’s plenty of things to do in Brighton that prove it’s the ultimate alternative seaside getaway.

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It’s almost impossible to start your day in Brighton without stepping foot in the fairly new addition to Brighton’s Laines, The Breakfast Club. An institution in Hoxton and Spitalfields, it’s now made its name on the South Coast as ‘the’ place to go for a morning treat. A blend of Hawaiian interior and cheesy 70s décor, it’s an Instagrammer’s dream – but wait until you get to the food! You’ll be hard pushed to pick a dish in under 5 minutes as the menu is bursting with delicious options. If I were you, I’d try the Avocado and Poached Egg on Rye, if you’re feeling a little naughty – go on, add some chorizo too, couple this with an organic Flat White and you’re good to go!

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Just a short walk from The Breakfast Club, you’ll find plenty of things to do in Brighton along its seafront. As a kid, I used to spend hours here, playing crazy golf with the family on Madeira Drive then later, sharing bags of freshly baked doughnuts with friends in my teenage years as we made our way through the endless fairground rides and arcades. Not much has changed since, in all honesty, all I’d say is save your pennies (apart from a ride on the Ghost Train) and your tummy for something a little tastier back in the Laines. On a sunny day though, this city’s pebbled beach is a glorious place to sit down, relax and order a fruity cider.

Leaving the seafront behind, it’s time to discover Brighton’s quirkier side. Head back along Bond Street and you’ll find one of the latest kitsch boutiques to appear. This Is Not A Butchers is a great spot for finding cheap but very colourful gifts for friends and family’s birthdays or failing that, if you want something to sit on your desk to keep you amused. One of my best buys in here has to be either my Moomin Cookbook or my pink spoon shaped as an aeroplane – yeah, it’s for kids but it makes me giggle every time I use it!

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Next up, you’ll need another caffeine hit before hitting the other alternative things to do in Brighton. Just a minute or two away, on Jubliee Street, and you’ll find The Flour Pot Bakery take-out. Now, I know this is controversial, but walk past Small Batch Coffee – in my opinion, there’s much better places in Brighton to get your caffeine hit. This little gem is one of them. Grab a milky latte and you won’t regret it. The Flour Pot Bakery is just one of those places where you can taste the passion that goes into an independent business. Each mouthful of coffee I’ve ever had here has been immaculate – you can trust me, I used to be a barista.

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Another controversial decision, leave behind Snooper’s Paradise – this bootsale-esque market is a massive hit with tourists and because of that has succumb to putting up its prices. It’s no longer the bargain basement it used to be. Also, I know this is an even tougher one but ignore the lure of Beyond Retro too. If you’re looking for vintage finds at a great price, you need to head to To Be Worn Again in Kensington Gardens, again, just a couple of minutes walk away. In here, I’ve found at least half of my wardrobe – that’s no lie. From floral skater skirts to candy-striper dresses and denim dungarees, I’ve found so many one-offs here that often fit perfectly, are a great quality in comparison to other vintage stores in the city and are priced well. The staff in here are also super friendly and know about the pieces they’re selling – they make each visit feel like you’ve found a piece of fashionable history. I can’t recommend this place highly enough.

On the same street, you’ll find Resident, one of Brighton’s last remaining indie record stores. I always pop in here for a browse among the many other things to do in Brighton. Back before Spotify, I used to spend hundreds in this store and for good reason; they always had amazing recommendations (and still do). Literally, anything recommended in here, often goes on to become big hits – I’m looking at you, Royal Blood and Gabrielle Aplin. What’s more, they also sell local gig tickets here – so take a peek when you head on in, listings are in the window.

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Finally – lunchtime and I hope you love a delicious Mexican. When this place first opened, you couldn’t get in for love nor money. Now the hype has died down a little, La Choza has become a little more accessible. You’ll spot it from its bright pink walls and vibrant blue front door, specializing in Mexican Street food – I’ve had some of my favourite meals in here. I won’t give too much away but have a Mandarin Jarritos (a bright orange Mexican soft drink) and the Pulled Pork Burrito – you won’t forget or regret it.

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Time to walk off that Mexican bad-boy and explore more things to do in Brighton. Head over to the beautiful domed Royal Pavilion. Once built as a seaside pleasure house for King George IV, once you step inside, you’re instantly transported to regal palaces of India and China. The sheer opulence inside is outstanding; chandeliers in every room and so much gold, it’s a little bit blinding at times. With tickets at around £10, it’s well worth the visit. But if you’d rather not spend, then a trip to the free Brighton Museum and Art Gallery next door is more than worth your time. From the mummies of Ancient Egypt to popular 20th Century graphic designers, it’s one of this city’s cultural hotspots.

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Now to venture to one of Brighton’s latest additions, Magazine, on London Road. This is where you can pick up a number of indie magazines for a more than fair price, including Betty, Kinfolk and Oh Comely. Once you’ve picked up your favourite titles, with an hour of two of walking behind you, you’ll want a sweet treat no doubt. Take a short stroll up the road to York Place and you’ll happen upon Icelandic Nordic Coffee Collective, opened by Edda Margrét Halldórsdóttir. Opt for a Liquorice Coffee and a traditional Cinnamon Bun – all made from Scandinavian recipes – and while away an hour or two, off your feet, in minimalist Scandi surroundings.

As it comes to the evening, walk a little back into the centre of town to Dukes at Komedia on Gardner Street. One of two Picturehouse cinemas in Brighton, book yourself in for whatever takes your fancy at the time and curl up in one of their sofas – this is one of the best evenings I’ve had of late watching Greta Gerwig in Frances Ha! It’s almost too cozy in this traditional red velvet seated cinema, complete with local craft beer and freshly made popcorn by the tub. The perfect way to finish a perfect day by the seaside.

What would be among your recommendations for things to do in Brighton?

LIFESTYLE, PERSONAL

2017 Resolutions: The Plan For This Year

Happy New Year everyone! 2016 is firmly behind us and 2017 resolutions have been popping up on feeds across the blogging community, so I thought I’d add to them with my little contribution.

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This year, I’m choosing to be a more positive person than I have been recently. For a number of reasons, the past few months have really taken their toll on me, so it’s time to ‘shake it off’ as Tay Tay would say and get excited for what 2017 could bring…

My 2017 Resolutions

Exercise more

Predictable but it’s been a few months of getting into a commuting lifestyle for me, which means my exercise routine has taken a bit of a hit. I’m planning on getting back into Yoga and Pilates this year, which I’m hoping will have an impact on my posture and mental wellbeing. I’m currently scouting out gym memberships (and fitness outfits) so watch this space.

Skill Up

To deal with the commute, I’ve been watching a LOT more YouTube videos from my favourite bloggers. Initially, I found them a little cringe. I’m not really sure why apart from the fact that it’s something I could never ‘gel’ with, I’ve always been a bit more of an introvert but as months passed, I’ve grown to love them (soz, data). Personal faves, for me, include Hannah Gale, Kristabel, The Travelista, What Olivia Did and The Elle Next Door, if you’ve got any picks then leave them in the comments and I’ll check them out. But the bottom line is, all these videos have made me want to learn video editing and potentially, make a few videos of my own.

The other skill I want to learn, that’s pretty similar, is photography. Don’t get me wrong, I can take a photo but I want to really hone my skills, if you can call them that. My Instagram feed is full of travel, food and blog photographers which means I get serious daily FOMO. 2017 will be the year I smash this goal, improve my Instagram game and spend more time taking photos of my adventures.

Learn Japanese

For a few years I’ve wanted to learn a language. Not content with just learning French or German like any other wise person, I’ve opted for something a little different; Japanese. Since I studied Japanese culture during my degree, I’ve been keen to try to learn the language I became fascinated by. I’m hoping it’ll also aid me when I FINALLY make it over there. I’ve found a beginners course and it looks like I’ll be starting in the next fortnight – eek!

Read More

This one is odd because I already read a hell of a lot but the majority of this is online. Whether it’s my favourite blogs or articles from Refinery29, I’m always inhaling words. For one of my 2017 resolutions, I want to read actual paper books again, with spines and everything. I have a stack of at least 20 to read, so the aim is to finish one a month – I’ve already finish my first, DO Design by Alan Moore. It’s well worth a read if you’re interested in visual art and the beauty of everyday life.

Focus On My Wellbeing

With a job in digital marketing and a love for all things internet, it’s hard to avoid screens. So, as well as the above reading and fitness goal, I want to switch off my phone at 9pm every night to give my mind time to shut down. Whether I read a book or do some meditation, I want to get back to sleeping like a regular person and this should help me achieve that *fingers crossed*.

The other 2017 wellbeing resolution I have is to explore more. I’ve just invested in a pair of hiking boots for my recent trip to Iceland, so I’m already thinking about where I can spend a few hours just taking in the world and wearing them in some more. It’s only in my twenties that I’m finally appreciating the benefits of a good ramble – it turns out my Dad was right all along.

Move

Saving the big one for last… Joe and I have been in our current flat for the past 5 years and it’s safe to say that we’ve outgrown the place we’ve come to call home. It’s time to expand, get a larger gaff and another bedroom – finally! The next few months may be a bit stressful, as it always is with moving but it’ll be SO worth it. If you’ve got any moving or renting tips, then it’d be good to read your thoughts below.

Have you got any 2017 resolutions for the new year?

TRAVEL

A Seaside Getaway at The Yarrow Hotel

Not so long ago, I was doing a little bit of research on Margate, Ramsgate and Broadstairs. Eventually, I convinced myself that I needed to explore the area over a weekend (not that it needed much convincing) and came across the luxury boutique Yarrow Hotel

Normally when I’m doing my hotel research, I look for something unique – a place that I’ll remember for years to come – and The Yarrow Hotel ticked this box. Not only was it a boutique – which means a more personalised service – it’s also the only training hotel in the UK. It just so happens that the Yarrow Hotel is owned by East Kent College and its students are the ones doing the training. By doing this, the college is helping the future leaders of the hospitality industry by placing them among highly skilled, professional staff who can coach them on the practical aspects of their courses, as well as the technical. All pretty great in my opinion.

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Not only that, The Yarrow Hotel is a historical wonder. Built in 1894 by Sir Alfred Yarrow after his daughter unfortunately became sick in Broadstairs. Sir Alfred was inspired by his friend, philanthropist Dr Barnardo, who famously housed children stricken by poverty, and built the Yarrow as a place to house and help children recuperate from illness, close to the fresh sea air.

So, with all this in mind, I made the hour and a half drive to find out more for a weekend…

Walking through the beautiful doors of the grand reception room, I was greeted by a number of smiling staff. Whilst reception checked my room to see if it was ready, I was told stories about the building and why, at first glance, it may seen a little curious. It turns out the Yarrow Hotel is symmetrical on both sides – one wing was for the boys and one for the girls – each totally the same. But it was the corridors and staircases that amused me the most – the corridors were built wide enough for children to play in and the staircases were shallow yet wide, perfect for children’s feet. I immediately knew I’d come across a gem.

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The Suite

Upon being told my room was ready, I walked up the truly unique staircase and found my room for the night – I’d opted for one of the Junior Suites. I couldn’t have been more impressed. The suite itself was larger than my flat! There was a spacious living area, a plush working area, a massive King-sized bed and my personal favourite, a set of double doors that led to the largest bathroom I’ve ever seen. The room’s decor itself was Scandi minimalist with baby blue hues on the walls and hints of grey furnishings around the room – it couldn’t have been more luxe.

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The Yarrow Spa and Salon

After having settled into my room for the night, it was time for me to head down to the Yarrow Spa for my full body massage. I wanted to treat myself after starting my brand new job and relieve some of the anxiety I’d felt over the past few weeks, ya see. For the next hour+, I had an incredibly relaxing yet chatty massage from the delightful Amy. The massage itself was on par, soothing every part of my body in woody smelling oils, the chat was helpful too – it felt like talking to a friend in a local coffee shop. I came out feeling the most chilled I’d felt in months.

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The best thing? Not only does the Spa do an array of massages, the Salon also does tinting, waxing, manicures, pedicures, facials – all starting from just £9.99! An absolute bargain, if you ask me – you can even relax in the hotel’s hot tub or spa after…

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The Yarrow Restaurant

Later that evening, I headed down to the Yarrow Restaurant for their A La Carte menu. I was excited for this meal as the award-winning Head Chef, Ben Williams, has cooked in Michelin starred restaurants and believes in only the finest, freshest, local ingredients, which makes for an ever-changing menu at the Yarrow Hotel. I began with the warm ham hock salad with crispy potatoes, a poached egg and pea foam, had rib-eye of beef with potatoes, field mushrooms in a red wine sauce as my main and finished with the raspberry soufflé with vanilla and toasted scone ice cream.

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In absolute honesty, I’ve only ever had food that delicious on my wedding day and again, that was by a Michelin-starred chef. The cuisine was simply put, unforgettable. After my wondrous meal, I went up to bed with a happy feeling in my tummy and revelled in the clean, white sheets that I curled up into.

The next day was for exploring sunny Broadstairs – more to come on that. Before I left, I took advantage of the continental breakfast buffet – serving everything from freshly squeezed juices to flaky pastries and a selection of ham and cheeses – with a cup of steaming fresh coffee straight from the pot.

As I left, the lovely lady at reception said, ‘We hope to welcome you back again one day.’

I replied, ‘You absolutely will.’

It’s rare that I ever say that and I meant every word.

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My rejuvenating stay, massage and meals were courtesy of The Yarrow Hotel but all words and opinions are my own.
TRAVEL

10 Reasons Why Disneyland Paris Is Better As A Grown Up

After very little deliberation, my husband and I recently took a magical trip to Disneyland Paris for our 5 year anniversary and it was nothing short of perfect (which I don’t say a lot). It did get me thinking though, why was it a better experience as a twenty-something – what made it so much more memorable than my last visit as a teenager?

So, I jotted down a few ideas…

Why is Disneyland Paris better as an adult?

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Nothing is Off-Limits

You know when you’re a kid and all you want to do is go on all the big, exciting rides? Well, I couldn’t do that first time around. I remember running to Indiana Jones and the Temple of Peril and Rock ‘n’ Rollercoaster starring Aerosmith only to be saddened by the fact I was about a centimetre too short. Those were truly sad times. But since going back, I can go on anything – no height issues, no health issues – just riding all day long. Recent highlights would have to be one of the latest additions, Crush’s Coaster and old favourite, Space Mountain: Mission 2 – both made easier with VIP Fast-track passes. But it’s not just the rides, I could have got up at midday if I wanted, ate as many ice creams as my tummy could have held, ridden on the same ride as many times as possible and enjoyed both the parade and fireworks shows all in one day, if I’d wanted – it was like living the adult dream – strategised and satisfying.

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You Get Every Joke

I don’t know if it’s different for you but when I’ve watched Disney films of late, I get the full experience. When you’re a kid, you may miss a whole multitude of jokes that just aren’t that apparent with a small amount of life experience. As soon as you watch them again as an adult, they take on a whole new meaning – it’s almost like watching them again for the first time. Well, it’s exactly the same in the parks. For us, Toy Story encapsulated this brilliantly, especially when we were queueing for Toy Soldiers Parachute Drop and Buzz Lightyear’s Laser Blast, the instructional videos that were playing made us howl with laughter – and we weren’t the only ones!

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It’s a Foodie Paradise

I lost count of how many different types of food there were in both Disneyland Paris parks. From all-American hot dogs at Casey’s Corner to Chicken Caesar Salads and character-themed cupcakes at Cafe Mickey, there was so much choice at every time of day. You may have also heard the rumour that theme parks are some of the most unhealthiest places on earth – in Disney’s case this is wholly unfair. You can grab a salad, sandwich or fruit bowl, just as much as you can indulge in colourful cookies, fresh burger stacks and Moroccan tagines. You’ll never be at a loss for something or somewhere to dine – in fact, you may have more of an issue trying to decide! It’d be criminal of me not to mention Chez Remy’s restaurant too – you must go. I won’t ruin the surprise but it is one of the best eateries I’ve ever been to.

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The Only Tears You’ll Shed Are Happy Ones

I know that when I was a kid Ursula, Jafar and Hades used to scare me silly. Nowadays, I find them more amusing than anything else – their songs are always catchier, their wit is always spot on and really, deep down, they’re just sensitive souls looking for a guiding light. I even used to flinch at the idea of going anywhere near a haunted house but the Phantom Manor was more amusing that I could have ever hoped for, especially its illusions. The only tears I shed during my trip were when I saw Mickey Mouse for the first time in person and the sight of Sleeping Beauty’s Castle – pure happiness.

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Everything Has The Potential To Be Fun

During our time at Disneyland Paris, yes – we waited in the odd long queue, we saw multiple children crying (mainly from the intense heat) and we were good grown-ups and let children ride before us on occasion but this wasn’t the drag it once was. We weren’t frustrated or bitter about it, we took it all in our stride – perhaps we’d grown up or maybe we were just enamoured with the whole experience but at no point were we ever uncomfortable or frustrated. We simply smiled, laughed and joked our way through each day enjoying the playful atmosphere.

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Disney Merch = Instagram Win

So, we (I say ‘we’ loosely) had plans on our anniversary getaway to wear Mickey and Minnie ears the whole time – sadly, we got there and all of the Mickey ears had gone. We were a little sad but not for long. We bought Mickey lollipops, Tsum Tsums, plushies and an Ed the Hyena cap for our cat-sitting friend – all went down well on Instagram, as expected. If you’re not a fan of our haul, there’s PLENTY more to buy – we must have gone to each store about 6-7 times, just trying to pick our favourites. Now, I wish I’d gotten the Woody doll I’ve been wanting since I was a little girl as a Birthday treat to myself but there’s always next time! But if I’m being 100% honest, the whole experience was a dream to post on Instagram – it just shows you how much people love a good Disney ‘gram!

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Stress Relieving

Disneyland Paris makes your life easy, which, when you’re an adult, doesn’t come around too often. Literally from when we phoned up to book to when we got to the park and left again, we never had a single worry. Park tickets were provided, all the resort information we needed was on hand, our Disney dining tables were booked for each evening and our transfers/luggage were all taken care of. This took all of the stress out of our anniversary break, which is exactly what we both needed. We couldn’t have wanted anything more… and the best bit? It all came with a pleasant smile and ‘how ya doing?’.

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Remembering Every Moment

When I last visited Disneyland Paris, I was a young kid and far too excitable to remember every little detail of my day. There are parts I can remember, like seeing Tigger in Disney’s Hotel New York hotel and my Dad being bear-hugged by Baloo on Main Street U.S.A post-parade but bar that, it’s a haze – albeit a sugary, hyper one. With my latest holiday, I can remember everything – don’t get me wrong, not all of it may be super special but they’re all memories that’ll last me a lifetime. Special ones to share between my husband and I, even down to sharing a daily Teatime Treat together. Seriously, they should be made compulsory worldwide.

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You Appreciate More

Walking around both parks, you begin to realise just how impeccably they’re run – just like a fine-tuned, dream-like machine. Each cast member knows where they need to be and when, each Disney character is on form 24/7 – not just when performing in parades or at photo opportunities – you really see just how much everyone ‘believes’ and is keen to make others feel the same way. It takes dedicated people like this to make Disney what it is, to make it an institution that people have incredible amounts of faith in and having experienced it for a full week, it was beyond impressive.

But most importantly of all, you get to be a kid again.

My husband and I booked our stay directly with Disneyland Paris with a 4-night stay at Disney’s beautiful Sequoia Lodge, park tickets included for each of our days. We got there with brilliant value return tickets booked via Eurostar. Our VIP fast track passes were complimentary from the Disney team themselves.
POP CULTURE

February’s Playlist

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And so it finally begins.

As one of my 2016 resolutions that I made on this blog, I said that I’d begin sharing a little bit of my musical world in the way of a monthly playlist and without further a do, here is my first.

Previously to this, music has always been quite a personal thing for me, I’ve always used it as a comforter – something that could make me feel better at any point in the day. If I’d had a bad meeting, then it’d be straight to something angsty like Against Me! or if I’m having a summery kind of day, then it’d be something like Elbow to really make the most of it. In fact, once I skipped all the way to uni listening to ‘One Day Like This’. Best. Day. Ever. It’s fair to say that a playlist can make or break my day.

This month, I’ve been going back to basics. A guy at work has re-ignited my love of all things 90’s and 00’s, as he’s been making his own Spotify playlist and I’ve been following along. I think that’s what’s nice about music, it can bring people together, whether you like the same bands or not. If you have a similar taste, then all the better!

February’s Playlist

  1. James Bay – Let It Go
  2. The Enemy – We’ll Live and Die in These Towns
  3. The Temper Trap – Sweet Disposition
  4. Vampire Weekend – A-Punk
  5. Black Kids – I’m Not Gonna Teach Your Boyfriend How to Dance
  6. Dodgy – In a Room
  7. Ray LaMontagne – Hold You In My Arms
  8. MGMT – Electric Feel
  9. Against Me! – I Was A Teenage Anarchist
  10. Arctic Monkeys – Why’d You Only Call Me When You’re High?
  11. Babybird – You’re Gorgeous
  12. Hozier – Someone New
  13. The Kooks – Naive
  14. London Grammar – Strong
  15. Mariah Carey – Fantasy

What have you been listening to this month? Is there anything you’d recommend for next month?

TRAVEL

Why Travelling Is Vital For You

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Every now and then, I get to hear travelling words of wisdom from complete strangers. When they happen, they’re unforgettable.

Having worked in the travel industry for nearly 5 years, everything can become a little numb. That hidden landscape you once saw now doesn’t seem to ‘wow’ you in the same way and arguably some of the most luxurious resorts in the world don’t make your eyes pop with delight – that is, until you hear about travelling from someone else. Then it’s a different ball game.

Every so often, where I work, I hear from those who’ve been travelling – young and old. No matter their age, it’s always a pleasure to hear them regale their stories and share experiences they never thought they’d have. But over the past couple of months, there have been two that have stuck with me, both of them older gentlemen. More importantly, both of them said exactly the same line to me;

Whatever you do, you must travel.

Do it while you still can and fulfil all of those wish-lists you have hidden away.

Their words, not mine.

They had a number of reasons why this was imparted so emotively and I felt duty bound to share them:

Taking a well-earned break

As regular people, we spend a lot of our life working. Whether we like it or not, we work increasingly longer hours for little more gain (if any) in often stressful environments, with people we don’t always get along with. This takes a toll on our health and our wellbeing over time. So it’s important to break the pattern every so often to refresh ourselves and reinvigorate our senses.

Both men weren’t saying this  so you make a more valuable contribution to your workplace, it’s to make sure you’re doing right by you so it doesn’t come and bite you in later years. Travelling is the perfect way to take this break and make the most of it, immersing yourself in an alien surrounding and forcing yourself to think a little differently – about you.

Re-assessing your life

Quite often, we can find ourselves in a situation we don’t want to be in but simply because we don’t have the time to really think about it. Not only is this bad for our mental health, it’s bad for our personal ambitions and goals. Taking a break, travelling and having the time to think is vital.

I’ve been in this position myself and was reminded of it by both men. I was once desperately unhappy in a previous job and relationship but because I never had the time to process it, I remained unhappy for far too long. It was a miserable year of my life which I’d recommend nobody else endure. After reassessing, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been – I’m more in touch with me (without that sounding corny), I know what I enjoy and I make informed decisions about my future. All we need do is give ourselves a little time to think it over.

Expand your knowledge

What was clear from both gentlemen, was that they never had the time to really learn. They went to school but the teaching wasn’t really what they’d call ‘top-notch’, so they had resigned themselves to lives fed by manual jobs. That is until both of them found travelling vital to their ability to gain knowledge. They effectively returned to brand new lives. Part of these lives, were new jobs that had a wholly more human element to them.

They found that one of the best ways to gain knowledge whilst travelling was by volunteering. Both men I spoke to had done just this, don’t get me wrong, a lot of younger people I’d spoken to had also done the same. It’d taught them how to connect with other people which inadvertently changed their place in the jobs market they came back to. They wanted to make a difference in society and now had the skills and confidence to do it.

Gaining a new perspective

Second to the above point, is gaining new perspective. One of the best things about travelling is experiencing other countries and their cultures. Each person I have spoken to has had AT LEAST one experience abroad that has changed their life in some way, no matter how small. This point was brought home even more so when I saw Levison Wood speak about his travels along the Nile and Himalayas a few weeks ago – for him, as well as those I’ve spoken to, it’s all about human encounter.

Not only will you return from travelling with new skills and experiences, you’ll return with a different way of seeing the world, after making somewhere else your home for a little while. With this comes balance. You’ll be able to see things for what they are once you’ve returned and that ‘crisis’ you thought was oh-so-important, is actually a drop in the ocean compared to other peoples’ lives around the world. It really makes you re-think your priorities.

Having no regrets

Between these two men, their advice was clear – it was to travel – because for both of them, not doing it would have meant regret. And to them, regret was the worst thing they’d experienced in their lives. Not guilt or sadness but regret. Interesting, huh?

Without meaning to sound morbid, they always left the conversation with words to the effect of life being too short. So many years down the line, they had been left feeling overwhelmed by all the choice there was in the world – so they wanted to experience as much of it as possible whilst they still could. They knew now that there were things they couldn’t do, like hike Machu Picchu, so their advice was to do it as soon as you can. After all, life is about memories, not things.

So, if your second-guessing that trip you’ve always wanted to take – just do it.

POP CULTURE

Mistress America: A Few Thoughts

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With the wind howling outside and drizzle patting on windows, today I settled down to begin the first of my 2016 film goals. Having missed Mistress America earlier in the year, as it wasn’t shown in any cinema within 100 miles of me, I rented it with a cup of tea and a few cheeky Hobnobs.

A fan of Noah Baumbach since 2010’s Greenberg, featuring Ben Stiller and Greta Gerwig since 2012’s Lola Versus, it was definitely appealing as another one of their collaborative old school, screwball comedies.

What is Mistress America about?

Just arrived at college, Tracy Fishko (Lola Kirke), is having problems socialising but eventually finds a friend in fellow literary fanatic, Tony, during class. Not only that, she develops a crush on him, that is, until he finds himself a girlfriend, something Tracy feels uncomfortable about. After a desperate phone call to her mum, she contacts her soon-to-be-stepsister, Brooke (Greta Gerwig), who also lives in New York City.

When Tracy spends a whirl-wind night with Brooke, she soon falls under her chaotic charm and begins to write a short story about Brooke in the hopes of making her college’s Lit Society. As they continue to spend more time together, Tracy learns of Brooke’s plan to open a restaurant named “Mom’s” after her deceased mother – until it’s revealed that her partner has pulled out of the investment.

Brooke, distraught, has to ask for money from her former friend, Mamie-Claire (Heather Lind) with whom she fell out with over a stolen idea and is now in a relationship with Dylan (Michael Chernus), Brooke’s former fiancé. A road-trip to their home later, relationships begin to unwind as truths are soon revealed from all corners…

What did I think of Mistress America?

Alike 2012’s Frances Ha, also directed by Baumbach and starring partner Gerwig, Mistress America begins in the same way – a stylish New York comedy about a girl with an uncertain future ahead of her. However, I’m sad to say that until Gerwig enters the melodrama, the pace is fairly slow and I wasn’t convinced initially of Kirke’s performance. It felt awkward but this could have been intended. Having excused this, the film becomes infinitely better with the introduction of more characters – each with their own quirky personality and own issues bubbling under the surface.

As I watched, Mistress America brought plenty of Baumbach’s usual themes to life; midlife and quarterlife crises, anxiety around different age groups, the fear of growing older, the younger person’s desire for more and achievement no matter what your age. It becomes apparent that Tracy wants to become the glamorous older Brooke with her exciting multi-facted career, if it can be called that, and Brooke wants Tracy’s youth and endless possibilities – it’s interesting as a woman who’s now been in both positions how realistically this is portrayed. What makes the story more tantalising is the underlying betrayal between the two women, despite them being ‘sisters’ of sorts.

More telling is a scene where a woman from Brooke’s past appears when her and Tracy are in a bar. The woman accuses Brooke of bullying her at school, calling her bitter, which she doesn’t seem to remember but then after prompting, does. It’s this bitter side to Brooke’s personality that is then brought out, it makes her, as a character, more watchable. She’s now become the frustrated, bitter woman whom she mocked. It’s clear to see her frustration with how her life has played out, carrying out temporary jobs just to make ends meat but never finishing them. It’s this conviction for her dreams that she lacks – she wishes that she could be happier with a simpler life. Gerwig plays this beautifully from start to end, initially hyperactive then dulled at the film’s conclusion.

Another scene that stands out is when Tracy is finally unveiled as the writer of the short story about Brooke, named ‘Mistress America’. Each character at Dylan’s house then rounds on Tracy, with their own opinion on why she is a bad person for having betrayed her ‘sister’. What’s telling here is that Tracy doesn’t feel guilt and she questions if that’s wrong. She doesn’t feel for her ‘sister’, she just wants the prestige from the piece that she’s written at, pretty much, any cost. It’s the all too common story of a younger woman’s drive to bolster her career. Kirke plays this well, having disliked her to begin with, she grows as a character and becomes believable. She’s no longer an awkward freshman, she’s a determined, driven young woman with dreams she needs to achieve.

In both instances, the lead women are struggling to make themselves heard in a world dictated by unrelenting time, the internet and social media – something which I can very much relate to approaching my 30’s, which made this film more appealing. Without this relate-ability, I’m not sure I would have enjoyed it as much as Baumbach’s older films but it’s still entirely watchable as a darker piece of wit and comedy.

Have you seen any of Baumbach’s films – maybe Mistress America – or have you always wanted to?

FOOD, LIFESTYLE

Indie Cafés That’ll Charm You In Manchester

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Whenever I’m planning a trip to a big city, I make a daily itinerary – this always includes indie cafés. Now, I appreciate that sounds a little too organised but it’s always proved to be the right strategy for seeing everything that needs to be seen in however long it is I’m visiting for. It also means that if the city I’m visiting really isn’t all that good, then I needn’t ever return – silver lining.

Now, a large part of each of these itineraries has included indie cafés, none was this truer than with my first trip to a city I’d always wanted to explore, Manchester. Along with the People’s History Museum, Alan Turing’s memorial and Piccadilly Gardens, were at least a notebook page of suggestions from blogs I’d read, travel guides and advice from those friends and family who’d been previously – who equally understand my need for a artisan cup of coffee. You know, one with a fancy heart on top in the crema.

Being a trained Barista, it’s always a treat for me to see how other coffee cultures compare across the world and this can always be found in a trusty, quirky indie café. So, if ever you are planning a trip to Manchester and want to take in a cup of the good stuff, as well as a cheeky slice of cake, look no further.

Manchester’s indie cafés that will charm your socks off

North Tea Power – 36 Tib Street

With its bold, wooden interior and faint glow, this little gem offers absolutely delicious food as well as an enormous selection of tasty coffees and teas. Each one has a little twist of flavour and are expertly made by the friendly, casual-looking baristas. Not only does this indie café boast loose leaf teas that are every flavour from blood orange to liquorice, they also do pretty much any coffee you’ve ever heard of – including a delicious cold brew. Don’t just stop for a cuppa though, enjoy the hand-made cakes on selection and I implore you to have a New Yorker – spicy but memorable. If you fancy something a little healthier, they also sell warming soups with fresh bread on the side, perfect for relaxing and settling with an indie magazine or two – they’ve got a great collection.

Sugar Junction – 60 Tib Street

One of the more charming indie cafés in Manchester’s city centre, Sugar Junction, is the Queen of afternoon teas. As you enter, it’s like walking into your Nan’s front room – if it’s still in a state of 50s chic that is. Think vintage cutlery, doilies and crockery with fetching floral designs. Each tea and coffee selection has been hand-picked by the team and are specially blended by local companies for the café itself – try the Sri Lankan-inspired Northern Quarter blend, with hints of caramel and hops. While you’re there, make the most of one of the biggest selection of savoury and sweet delicacies available in the city, all hand-made by the team.

Takk – 6 Tariff Street

A little less average now, how about something Scandi-inspired? Takk, Manchester’s resident Nordic indie café, has to be experienced. The name of the café itself means ‘thank you’ in several Scandinavian languages. Expect to be surrounded by bearded creatives with a mac under arm, as well as those looking for a cup of crafted artisan coffee. I was most excited about the hand-roasted and drip coffee from Iceland that reminded me of the heavenly Reykjavik Roasters… what I’d give to go back there and watch the sun come up again. This simple but welcoming café is a comfortable hub to hide away in after a few hours pounding the pavements of Manchester, it couldn’t be more ‘Icelandic cosy’ if it tried. Surrounded by Nordic art, design and travel guides, sample an Icelandic Hot Dog – simple, tangy and perfect.

Blue Daisy Cafe – 36 Oldham Street

Always with an inspired film quote etched onto its window, the boho Blue Daisy Café, opposite infamous Affleck’s is a great spot for lunch. A people watcher’s ideal, you can enjoy varied vegan and vegetarian dishes in here from its deli counter of dreams in a comfy, colourful interior. Not only that, there’s always a scrummy range of home-made tempting-looking treats to be devoured with an ice tea in hand, just make sure you enjoy one of their eclectic salads first. The only other thing to mention here is that this indie café is obviously a community hub so tends to get quite busy fairly quickly, it’s definitely worth waiting for a seat though, especially in the Summer when you can sit outside and covet one of the table’s daisies.

Home Sweet Home – 49 – 51 Edge Street

Fast becoming one of the most popular indie cafés in Manchester, Home Sweet Home, is a traditional American kitchen. Available for Californian breakfasts and brunches as well as New York cake and coffee – your best bet is to head here before a day’s worth of exploring. The first thing that I was hit with upon entering was just how big everything is – I told you, American. The freshly-baked cakes and bright orange egg yolks are as big as your face and should always be washed down with one of this café’s infamous, creamy milkshakes, complete with a cherry on top. If you fancy a savoury dish, try the Cheeseburger Toastie – yeah, you read that right.

Teacup Kitchen – 55 Thomas Street

Owned by electronic music producer, tea enthusiast and DJ, Mr Scruff, this is one of the more popular picks of Manchester’s indie cafés, a bit of an institution. No matter what time of day it is, be prepared to wait but don’t be put off. In the heart of the city’s alternative Northern Quarter, as many dishes as possible are hand-crafted, locally-sourced, fair trade and organic. Alike North Tea Power, this award-winning café hosts a number of varied loose leaf teas but in addition, also serve Atkinson’s hand-roasted coffee, expertly crafted by Teacup’s baristas. However, it’s fair to say the real star of the show here is the Rainbow cake – Battenburg, raspberry jam and marzipan at its finest – close second best is the Coconut and Carrot cake, delicious to the last bite.

Have you been to Manchester before? What would be your indie café picks for this charming Northern city?

LIFESTYLE

Mindfulness: A Twenty-Somethings Dream?

With targets to hit at work, the never-ending twenty-something quest to own a house and the big 3-0 on the horizon, there’s supposedly a lot to worry about in my world. But is it all really worth the stress, anxiety and lows?

Recently, I’ve got into a little something called Mindfulness and I can tell you now, it has changed my life. Instead of having a mini breakdown over an Excel spreadsheet, crying over the fact that there’s just not enough days in the week and feeling like ‘adulting’ is a bit of a big step to take, I practice a few of these tips below and come out smiling the other side on a natural high.

So, if you’re wondering what this miracle cure is, here’s a little guide to help you out on those days when you feel like you need a cheeky cuddle and a big, fat Dairy Milk:

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is a simple way of making sure that we reach our human potential with both a combination of medical science and philosophical wisdom. It’s practiced to achieve focus, de-stress and slow ourselves down in a world with a steadily increasing pace, whether that be offline or online.

Why try Mindfulness?

  • Better acceptance and control of your emotions, which means recovering from bad moods more quickly. Mindfulness is said to greatly aid those with depression and anxiety.
  • Improved emotional intelligence; good social skills, ability to co-operate with others and see from another’s perspective.
  • Gain a more stable sense of self-esteem which is less dependent on external factors e.g. other people’s opinions and what is written in the media.

How to practice Mindfulness

Breathe to relax

Seven times a minute. This is how many times a deeply relaxed person breathes. The slower you breathe, the more relaxed you will become. I’ve always found this most helpful just before a presentation or interview, equally at times when I need to focus to get something done, maybe like coding a little on the blog. All you need do is breathe in for 6 seconds, hold for 2, then breathe out for another 6.

Go for a walk

Not only is walking one of the best forms of exercise to take, it’s also a proven stress reliever and mood booster. Walking can be made even more effective by simply taking in a few simple aspects around you – colours, sounds and sights. If your mind strays back to money concerns or deadlines, simply try and focus your mind on your surroundings again.

Take time out to be creative

A visit to an art gallery or a museum needn’t be a special treat, especially as so many of them are free. Visit as many times as you like, find pieces that capture you and look at them for anything from 5 to 10 minutes and nothing else. Focus on it. When you leave, your mind will feel clearer for having only focused on that one thing.

Bring yourself into the present

Identify something that you wear – a ring, a scarf or a watch – whenever your day gets a little stressful, stare at that one piece. Let it remind you to focus on one thing at a time and tell yourself to breathe through the situation.

Listen to your surroundings

No matter what it is that surrounds you, people talking, the radio on or the chaotic noises of a local cafe, take time to stop and notice them. Focus your thinking on these individual sounds for up to 2 minutes, take in as much of them as possible. Don’t attach thought to them or begin to ask questions, just listen.

Make the most of idle time

Whenever you’re standing in a queue, waiting for the kettle to boil or even waiting for public transport, use this valuable time to de-stress. Breathe, don’t worry about what may or may not happen at your future destination and practice being still, maybe even listen to a chilled playlist.

Relax your neck and shoulders

When you’ve sat at your desk all day, remember to keep your neck and shoulder muscles loose. Unclench your neck, release your neck and pay attention as your head starts to feel a little lighter. Not only will this exercise make your head feel more relaxed, leading to less migraines, it’ll also make your brain function increase.

Sing a little song

Now, it doesn’t matter if you can sing for this one. All you need do is take 6 deep breaths and sing a little range of notes – doh re mi fa so la ti doh. Sing once getting higher, then sing once getting lower. Not only will it give you a giggle, it’ll also distract from any imminent anxiety.>/p>

Enjoy a brunch with friends or family

Weekends are often the best time to practice mindfulness, not only do we have more time but we also have availability to see those closest to us. Whenever you can, try to meet up with these people who inspire you and enjoy a healthy brunch outdoors in the fresh air. Instead of waking up to e-mails and notifications, you’ll focus on human interaction and have a real opportunity to focus on the simplicity of the food you’re eating.

Failing this, you could download these; Stop, Breathe and Think, Calm and The Mindfulness Training App.

Have you ever practiced Mindfulness before? Did it benefit you at all?

PERSONAL

Hello 2016.

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Let’s begin the year with a little admission.

I don’t know when it was, it’s impossible to pin point it but when I hit a certain age, I became a different person. When I was growing up, from teenage years to my early twenties, days consisted of me searching out the latest tracks by my favourite bands, watching endless amounts of indie movies, enrolling in musical lessons meaning I could have been a one-woman band, reading piles of cultural magazines and undoubtedly, playing a bit of Playstation along the way. Now that’s all changed.

And I think it’s all this adulting – sitting at the same desk Monday to Friday, being too tired to do very much after, living for the weekend, attempting to make the most of them and then realising they’re far too short. To me, it breeds a life whereby the things you once loved could be left behind, buried if you like.

So, this year, it’s my mission to re-find those aspects of my life that I once loved but have perhaps dulled in order to reclaim a little bit of me.

Blog

Off the back of this, you’ll see that this little space I occupy online will change slightly. It’ll be based more around the things I love; music, indie cafés, travel, recipes and advice (if I feel qualified enough to give it!). I’ll also be re-designing and making more effort to put myself out there in the blogging community. Sometimes I can be a little shy, so it’s a personal goal to break free of my own constraints. I started to do this last year at events, like Blogtacular but it’d be great to continue it.

Music

This has always been one of my loves. At times, it’s often felt like music has got me through what nothing else could have and that’s no exaggeration. I’m sure everyone has a similar story. It’s one of those incredible arts that can pick you up one second, then leave you with tears rolling down your face the next. With the help of a little thing called Spotify, this year, I’ll be making a playlist a month. It’ll document what I’ve loved and become a little amalgamation of old and new because let’s not forget some old faves.

Films

As I said, I’d watch so many films a week – it’s a wonder I ever made it out on day trips with my friends, let alone school/college! Now, this hasn’t exactly stopped – I’m fortunate to live less than ten minutes away from my local Cineworld and I spend a healthy amount of time there *cough*. But it’s not those films that I want to aspire to, I want to be able to watch as many indie films as I used to. Starting with Mistress America, I’ve been a fan of Greta Gerwig for a little while, so it makes sense to start here. The aim is to watch at least two new indie films a month, no matter their genre.

Reading and Inspiration

Along with music and films, inevitably comes reading. It’s just part and parcel really. Growing up, my bedroom walls used to be filled to the brim with scraps of paper, posters, gig tickets and quotations that I’d torn from the endless magazines I used to consume from different publishers. In 2016, the aim is to maintain the commitment to the magazines I’ve been buying from Magazine down in Brighton, and keep reading Betty, Oh Comely, Frankie and Caboodle, as well as pick up on at least a few more, including my growing comic collection. Tied into this one is to feel more inspired. I think we can spend far too much of our time staring at a screen, I know I’m not the only one. So I plan on getting out and about, visiting exhibitions like I used to and indulging in cultures of this world that I would rarely be exposed to, if ever. This, for me, breeds creativity.

Gaming

I want to take a couple of hours a week to lose myself in a virtual world. When I was a kid, I used to read countless video game magazines and constantly look forward to the next big release. Don’t get me wrong, I still play now and again, as well as attend MCM Comic Con and Eurogamer but I want to do more. By the end of this year, I plan to at least complete a game and I mean a long one, not just any old arcade game, to really make use of that Playstation that I bought.

Travel

I’m a bit of a wandering soul. Already on the agenda are New York in February, Disneyland in July for our Anniversary, Germany in August to visit family and York in October for a romantic city break. Not a bad start to this one.

Learn Something

Of course, you can’t get through an entire year without learning a single thing. This year, I think may be the right time to pick up an instrument again – probably the bass because that’s what I enjoyed the most. I have fond memories of my duck egg bass guitar with it’s beautiful curves and creamy pickguard. Failing that, it’ll be learning how to become proficient at Pilates – I have the mat, I just need to attend a little more or it’ll be to become qualified at an intermediate grade in the German language. It can’t hurt with a fair few members of my family over there!

What are your plans for 2016? Have you set yourself any goals?